So we had our first Staffing Meeting yesterday. If you have never heard the term "staffing" and are instead thinking about a "staff" infection and wondering if the two terms are connected... well you are right.
That meeting was as fun as a staff infection. Sometimes similes just happen :).
First of all the bios were 20 minutes late, which was extra awesome since I was in an empty classroom waiting for the caseworker to call me. Then this meeting lasted way longer than it should have.
Staffings usually happened once a month to discuss that case, or to make a significant step forward or backwards in the case. This time we were there discussing whether or not Snow White and her brother should have unsupervised visits. It was a mess. We started out by going around the room and describing (as was appropriate) the parents' progress and how the kids were doing. Bio Mom is still HIGHLY upset that Snow White referred to me as Mom last week. It was to the point where she was suggesting that Snow White doesn't know who her real parents are. Throughout the entire meeting Bio Mom was angling to get her removed from our home.
I continued to not make any friends when I explained what Snow White has been telling me about her feelings and her behaviors. Bio Mom tried to turn it around on me and make it seem like I am laying the blame on others. Then I had to stand up for myself. IT was a mess. Thankfully Snow White's counselor was there and basically repeated everything I said and put the parents' (and some of the caseworkers) in their place.
After a lot of talking, bickering, and whining, it was decided that the kids would have a joint supervised visit and separate unsupervised visits. And after all of the talk about how the bio mom is a "new" person and is now so amazing, the "new" bio mom, threw and "old mom" style fit. Instead of understanding that they were doing separate unsupervised visits due to the kids' emotional readiness.... she took the stance that no one trusts her with her kids (why should they) and made this all about her. She even went as far as to threaten the caseworker telling him that he better deliver or she will go above his head.
I need some antibiotics.
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