New babies are supposed to:
1. pee everywhere
2. puke
3. get diaper rashes
4 poop
5. wake up in the middle of the night
6. poop
7. make weird noises
8. scream to be held
9 and poop.
I am the brand new parent of a teenager, and at times, look at this list with longing. Poop is easy: clean it. Diaper rashes: I believe there is a cream for that. Night time feedings are not as scary as night time convos with their boyfriend.
I have no idea what I am doing. At 28 I am dealing with my child's boyfriend (and his mother who is... well she may read this one day so I will stop here), sex talks, her being a brand new driver, finding a vehicle that she can eventually wreck, money talks, cellphones, sex talks, what doctor does a 17-year-old see, sex talks, having your own relationship with God, drive drunk and no car ever again talks, and more sex talks.
See how the first list seems way more fun?
Despite never knowing if I am making it better or worse(or even being listened to) Mulan continues to be a joy. She is an effortless part of our family, and I am proud of all of her accomplishments. I missed so much, but am so thankful that I have gotten to be here when she got her acceptance letter into college, her drivers license, and tell her that we found her a car.
Snow White is torn between venerating Mulan and resenting (RESENTING) having to share the family with her.
ASIDE:
Snow White is also starting to realize that things are coming to an end with her bio parents. TPR is scheduled for August 10th, and the grandparents are making one last Hail Mary. Snow White is suffering from increased nightmares that cause her to wake up screaming and an increase in attitude (that is awesome).
There are so few people's experiences that I can draw on for advice and support. Parenting is supposed to be a certain way, and we are doing it all backwards, sideways, and in the 20th dimension. Parenting as it is supposed to be is gone, and I am in uncharted territory. Without a float. But with plenty of sex talks.
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