Loads of stuff

Snow White's parents remain homeless.

Snow White's caseworker is avoiding her parents, and is tired of their drama. However he did come and get Snow White from school yesterday to drive her to a birthday party that they threw for her. Grandma paid for everything and Grandpa wasn't there.

Snow White was so excited to go and see them, so we were happy too.

Snow White's behavior has been changing. I think that she can tell that "something" is up and feels the distance growing between her and her family. This is devastating to watch because I can't do anything about it. I have to correct her and give her consequences for behaviors caused by parents who probably will never put forth the effort to get her back.

She is being mean to Ariel, who is trying to adjust to being a part of our family and trying to learn to love us as well. She is in the habit of reminding Ariel that we aren't her real parents and this isn't their real home.

She is also pitting her parents against us... questioning our decisions and telling us that she is going to believe her "real" dad over us. We have gone so long working to make sure that we never blame her parents for anything and that we just talk about how much they love her... they have not had the same thought process and it has caused Snow White anxiety.... and I don't think that all of this is her.. I do believe that she is parroting what she is hearing from Mom and Dad.


We are starting to wonder if it isn't time to start.... in a non-judgmental way, making sure that the parents don't get a pass.... But I don't know.

I want to make the decision that is best for her mental state... not mine.


Ariel's parents had court on Monday. They disputed the fact that the agency removed their kids for a good reason and want a trial, which is set for Feb. 5. If mom had accepted that her kids had been taken for good reason, she would have had to stop seeing Ariel's step dad, and remove him from her life permanently. She didn't want to do this, and as of Monday was not working a case plan. However she seems to fully believe that she will win at court and her kids will get to come home.

It just makes me sad to see a girl (she is very young) choose to stay with a man who is obviously beating her. Perhaps she is willfully ignoring the fact that he is beating her kids too..... but this is something that I will never understand. I am hoping she when she loses in February, it will be that wake-up call that she needs and she will say goodbye to the ass hole who is beating her and concentrate on being a Mommy.

Ariel STILL hasn't seen her Mom or siblings. I get the feeling that when she does she will take 84 huge steps backward in behavior and in her adjustment. This has gone on too long and she needs to get used to having vists etc.